Jodi Ann Donato: The Strength to Thrive

After two years as a comptroller for a local car dealership, Jodi Ann Donato realized there wasn’t a future for her there. “I knew that if I wanted real opportunity, I would have to create it for myself,” she said.

She began law school part time, taking classes at night after work. As a single mother this soon became untenable. “The hardest part wasn’t the workload,” she says. “I was missing too much with my son. I made a bold change. I transferred to the full-time day program and began working part time. It was a financial strain, but it meant more time with my son.”

She fondly remembers evenings sitting side-by-side with her son at the dining room table – her studying case law and him practicing his letters.

“Those years shaped not only the lawyer I became, but the person I am – someone who knows that resilience, love and perseverance can overcome the longest odds.”

Jodi Ann Donato: The Strength to Thrive

After two years as a comptroller for a local car dealership, Jodi Ann Donato realized there wasn’t a future for her there. “I knew that if I wanted real opportunity, I would have to create it for myself,” she said.

She began law school part time, taking classes at night after work. As a single mother this soon became untenable. “The hardest part wasn’t the workload,” she says. “I was missing too much with my son. I made a bold change. I transferred to the full-time day program and began working part time. It was a financial strain, but it meant more time with my son.”

She fondly remembers evenings sitting side-by-side with her son at the dining room table – her studying case law and him practicing his letters.

“Those years shaped not only the lawyer I became, but the person I am – someone who knows that resilience, love and perseverance can overcome the longest odds.”

Unexpected Paths

Donato had been fascinated with criminal law since she was 12 years old, reading every trial detail in the newspapers. When she was in junior high school, her mother survived an attempted home invasion. The police came to her house several months later with photographs for her mother to review. Her mother realized it was the same man in all six photos (with different facial hair or haircuts). The detectives admitted that they believed the man was responsible and they just needed her mother to confirm it. She refused.

“It wasn’t until law school that I realized the gravity of that moment,” Donato says. “The system holds such incredible power, and it can easily be abused. I only recently realized how much this experience impacted my early interest in law. I wanted to fight to make sure the system works fairly for everyone.”

So, in law school, she was determined to join the criminal law clinic. She was the first to drop in her application, but fate had other plans. Her application was misplaced. Instead, she began a family law externship with Lew Silverman, a support magistrate in family court where she was charged to research and draft a memorandum on the registration of a foreign judgement involving a divorce originally filed in Australia.

“My work contributed to the magistrate’s final decision and our work was published. It was a moment that showed me that even unexpected paths can lead to meaningful and lasting accomplishments.”

The system holds such incredible power, and it can easily be abused."

The Next Chapter

Donato graduated from law school in two and a half years and began working as a family law attorney for various local firms for the first few years of her career.  In the span of two days in “one sunny October,” she discovered she was pregnant with her third child and that her boss was being investigated.  Donato began the next chapter of her career – the start of Donato Law.

“I can still vividly remember meeting with the Yellow Pages representative (yes, I’m dating myself here), who told me a business card ad would cost $350 a month. I knew I had no choice, I had to do it.”

She gave birth to her son on a Thursday and was back in the office Monday morning. “It was exhausting, overwhelming, and terrifying,” she says. “But I had to keep going – for my clients, for my family and for myself.”

The work didn’t stop, so I didn’t stop.”

Fires and Floods … Oh My

And for 20 years, Donato began building her practice. Representing clients in all matters of family law. It wasn’t until December of 2017 that she would face another major turning point in her firm.

“It was early morning when my phone rang,” she says. “My friend was calling to tell me my office building was on fire. I laughed – she had a twisted sense of humor – and brushed it off. Finally, I picked up my phone to text a friend with the fire department and froze. There was a photo of my building engulfed in flames.”

Donato raced out the door in flip-flops “because when your world is burning down, you don’t stop to think about shoes.” She watched as firefighters carried out the remnants of her office – diplomas, photos, memorabilia.

“The pieces of the life I had built one long, hard day at a time.”

Fortunately, Donato had scanned most of her cases into Dropbox a few weeks prior. And with several will signings scheduled for the next day there was no time to mourn. She found temporary office space down the road and dragged in a folding table, a printer, a chair, a laptop and setup shop.

“The work didn’t stop, so I didn’t stop.”

She found a permanent office and planned to move in early January. The night before, she received a call from her temporary landlord. A water main had burst and her office had been flooded.

“The little refuge I had cobbled together after the fire was gone,” she says. “Half of what I’d salvaged from the fire was destroyed. Two days later I moved my office for good. No desks. No filing cabinets. Just a folding table, a printer, a laptop and sheer determination.”

Two years later, COVID hit. “While many around me were panicking, I stayed calm,” she says. “After all, when you’ve survived a fire and a flood, what’s a pandemic?”

She threw herself into learning and began to really shift her perspective. She wasn’t just a self-employed attorney; she was running a law firm.

A Woman in the Practice of Law

“Being a member of the Women’s Bar Association of the State of New York has had the most profound impact on me,” Donato says. “Serving as a member of the legislative committee opened my eyes to the many things women take for granted that are not guaranteed. It’s vital that we continue the work started by our foremothers, fighting to protect the rights that so many women have worked tirelessly to secure — ensuring those rights remain safeguarded for generations to come.”

As we spoke, Donato was on the eve of her installation for her second term as treasurer of the Women’s Bar Association of the State of New York. “It’s incredibly meaningful to me to be able to contribute to the advancement of women in the legal profession. The work we do is so important, and I’m honored to be a part of it.”

Looking ahead, she hopes to fulfill her ultimate dream to one day serve as president of this organization.

“I’ll continue working toward creating a more inclusive and supportive legal community and fighting for the rights of all women, for future generations.”

It’s vital that we continue the work started by our foremothers, fighting to protect the rights that so many women have worked tirelessly to secure — ensuring those rights remain safeguarded for generations to come.”

The Power of Empathy

For Donato, one of the greatest assets she brings to the table is her empathy. “I make it a priority to truly understand my clients’ feelings, recognizing how personal and challenging their situation can be.”

Having experienced the legal system personally, Donato can relate to some of her clients. She often shares her own story with those facing raising a child on their own or with those considering adopting a stepchild (her own husband adopted her eldest son a few years after they married).

“At the same time, I help them step back from those emotions and approach decisions from a place of clarity and rationality. I guide them toward solutions that are practical and in their best interest.”

Part of that personal experience in the legal system is also the inspiration behind her continued pro bono work. When she was pregnant with her first child, she was fired from her job for being pregnant. She even managed to get a recording of them admitting she would still have a job if she weren’t pregnant. She filed a claim with the NYS Human Rights Commission and won her back pay.

“I understand what the struggle feels like,” she says. “I’ve been on the other side of the legal system when I couldn’t afford to hire an attorney. This drives me to give back – to be the support and the guidance for others in difficult positions.”

“I believe wholeheartedly that everything happens for a reason,” she says. “If my clinic application hadn’t been lost, I might never have met Lew Silverman who set the course of my career. What felt like a setback turned out to be the beginning of something greater than I could’ve imagined

“No matter the challenges, I have the strength to rebuild, persevere and thrive.”

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