When it comes to adoption, there are so many hoops through which to jump. It is both a stressful and magical time. Becoming a parent might be one thing in life that your client never envisaged happening. Therefore, you must encourage them to work hard to avoid anything negative happening during the process and thereafter. This is where social media comes in: a superb creation, but one which could lead to your client being dropped as a potential adopter. Here are several important considerations that we urge you to share with your clients.
Whether it is prospective employers or partners, people will check another person’s social media to delve a little deeper into their being. Your clients are likely already aware of this. However, things are not always as they seem. Settings on certain platforms can change. Therefore, it is always best to encourage them to check regularly to see what can be seen by someone they are not friends with on Facebook, for example. Editing previous posts, especially rants, to ensure they are set to friends only is a sensible move. Unfortunately, friends of friends can often gain a much deeper insight into a person. The world is so small, and someone involved with the adoption may have mutual friends with your client. As a result, many suggest that you should not have anything on your social media accounts that you wouldn’t shout from the rooftops or have enlarged on the side of your house.
As the Kaufman & McPherson Law Firm recognize, adoption can be a stressful and anxiety-fuelling time. Even once your client has become a successful adopter, the privacy issue does not end there. It is advisable to avoid posting photographs of the child on social media for all and sundry to see. Certainly, any instantly recognizable features revealing where the child may live must be avoided.
The circumstances surrounding an adoption vary from case to case. In the worst situations, where a child has been removed from a family, your client may find themselves on the receiving end of communication via social media from their child’s family or a friend thereof. While it may seem impolite to simply ignore, it is best to do so, blocking the accounts to prevent future contact. Of course, that does not stop them passing the buck onto someone else to contact your client. It may be worth them abandoning that profile and starting a new one, not revealing a full name or location.
It is natural for an adopted child to be curious about their birth parents and family members. Social media can make information available at the touch of a button, which previously would have been challenging to discover. It is advisable to discuss with clients the possibility of this occurring. Although there is rarely anything that can be done to stop this happening, as it would be down to the choice of the child, it can come as a shock. As always, parents must be advised to keep a close eye on their children’s social media activities and follow age restrictions, such as 13 for Facebook.